10+ Unreasonable Behaviour Divorce Examples

By July 25, 2017
A couple discussing unreasonable behaviour

If you’ve decided that you want to file for divorce, you must have a valid ground for divorce to do so.

If no adultery has taken place and you haven’t been separated for at least 5 years then your only two courses of action are using unreasonable behaviour or 2 years separation with consent.

What is Unreasonable Behaviour?

Unreasonable behaviour in divorce is the most commonly used ground for divorce in England and Wales, but what are some examples of unreasonable behaviour?

You can use the unreasonable behaviour of your spouse to obtain a quick and easy divorce, but to do so successfully, you must provide the court with at least 4/5 examples of your spouse’s behaviour that you deem to be unreasonable.

If your marriage is at breaking point and it’s because of your spouse’s unreasonable behaviour, then you need to consider what behaviours of his/her are deemed to be unreasonable when petitioning for divorce.

As with each other ground for divorce, there are procedures and certain rules to be followed in order to successfully process your divorce.

How to file for divorce using Unreasonable Behaviour

Generally, the judge will look for 4 to 5 types of unreasonable behaviour that has contributed to the breakdown of the marriage.

Therefore, you need to know what actually constitutes unreasonable behaviour before using this ground to file for divorce.

It’s therefore recommended to read our guide to using unreasonable behaviour before proceeding with this ground.

The 4 to 5 required behaviours could’ve happened either whilst you are still together and have not separated or any behaviour displayed 6 months prior to your separation.

What is deemed as unreasonable will change per case because it’s a personal and subjective thing, however, each behaviour does need to be strong enough to convince a District Judge that you can no longer remain married to this person because of the unreasonable behaviour.

The petitioner (the person filing the divorce) cannot cite the behaviours of themselves, it is the person citing those allegations of unreasonable behaviour that needs to be the petitioner.

Some very basic and common examples of unreasonable behaviour range from not spending any time together, one party is financially irresponsible, they are not prepared to spend time socially with you, right up to displaying aggressive and threatening behaviour or are dependent on alcohol or drugs.

Examples of unreasonable behaviour

Here’s 10+ common examples of unreasonable behaviour:

  • Your spouse on numerous occasions has stated that [he/she] does not love you anymore, which has caused you distress.
  • Your spouse has consistently shown little or no interest in socialising with you or [his/her] friends and has made no effort to do so.
  • Your spouse does not sleep in the same bed as you and has not done so since [insert date], causing you distress.
  • Your spouse has a bad temper that [he/she] has lost on numerous occasions causing you to be scared.
  • Your spouse has been verbally abusive towards you on numerous occasions causing you distress.
  • The Respondent refuses to discuss the issues within the marriage with the Petitioner.
  • The Respondent does not want to engage in any sexual or physical relations with the Petitioner.
  • The Respondent is financially irresponsible, and has failed to maintain the Petitioner and/or the children properly during the marriage.
  • The Respondent has always disliked the Petitioner’s family, which has led to the Petitioner feeling isolated from them and thus causing [him/her) distress. The Respondent has always had too close a relationship to [his/her) own family making the Petitioner feel isolated.
  • The Respondent has never liked the Petitioner’s family despite the Petitioner’s best efforts and has never socialised with them as much as the Petitioner has requested, causing the Petitioner distress.

It’s vitally important to remember that the unreasonable behaviour you put on the divorce petition is relevant to the breakdown of your marriage and is from your spouse and not yourself.

A useful exercise to do is to compile a list of all actions or behaviours you deem as unreasonable and you’ll often be surprised as to how many things you can think of.

Structuring your unreasonable behaviour examples

Many find it difficult to structure their examples into the correct format. Using our unreasonable behaviour divorce service eliminates any of this stress, we will handle your whole divorce for you from start-finish including structuring your examples.

We have written a few ways in which you could word your examples:

“Since (insert date) the respondent has not socialised with the petitioner, which has lead to the petitioner feeling very upset and lonely.”

“The respondent has not contributed financially to the family home since (insert date), leading the petitioner to pay for everything, causing the petitioner to be stressed and worried.”

The basic template of an example is as follows, what the example is, when it occurred/since when, and how it made you feel.

How to keep your divorce amicable when using unreasonable behaviour?

If you are seeking to keep your divorce amicable, it’s advisable to explain the 4/5 examples of unreasonable behaviour that you’ve written on your divorce petition, to your spouse.

This will reduce the acrimony and can often help to keep the relationship amicable.

Your spouse may want you to change some of the examples given to sound less harsh, or they may just be happy for you to proceed.

How we can help you file for divorce

If you were to choose Quicke-Divorce to help you with your unreasonable behaviour divorce, you would receive a dedicated and personal case manager who would ensure that your divorce petition passes through court.

Your case manager would liaise with you to discuss the situation further if they felt more was needed and deal with any queries from the court on your behalf.

Finding unreasonable behaviour examples can be quite a daunting task at the start, but once you’ve spoken to one of our friendly advisers, you’ll soon be put at ease and the process will become easier.

To get free advice or information on using unreasonable behaviour to divorce simply email us today or leave a comment below with details of your situation and we’ll get back to you.

We’ve helped over 40,000 couples use unreasonable behaviour to obtain a fast, efficient and low-cost divorce – Call us on 01793 384 032 for free advice.

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  • Billie Cameron says:

    I have had my decree sought refused due to insufficient supporting information for not being able to live with the respondent due to the respondents behaviour. I would appreciate some advice in amending my pettition


  • Mark Keenan says:

    Hi Billie, drafting your own unreasonable behaviour particulars can be difficult. We are experts in drafting these types of divorce petitions and can help you for a low-cost fee from just £59! Choosing what examples of unreasonable behaviour to use can be tricky, which is why it’s best to get some expert help.

    What were the reasons you used in your refused petition?

    You need to ensure that the behaviours you are stating are worded and phrases sufficiently enough to satisfy the judge. That’s what we’ll do for you when drafting your behaviour based divorce petition. Call us on 01793 384 029 or email us for more information – [email protected]

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